When we are truly connected to ourselves, then we are confident in ourselves and our true feelings, which empowers us to connect with others and let our apprehensions dissolve. Today we learn about becoming whole to connect with others and letting the world in.
Day 5 – Coming Out of the Disconnect
I only feel a need to connect.
Aham Brahmasmi (I am the wholeness of universal existence..)
MESSAGE OF THE DAY
Even though we all seek meaningful connections, we also often avoid closeness and intimacy because it can be scary to our ego self, making it feel vulnerable and threatened. When that happens, we turn off and disconnect emotionally. We retreat into our false, separate self as a defense mechanism.
In today’s meditation, we learn that our real self never fears or feels threatened by heartfelt connections. It only knows how to connect and how to love. As our true nature blossoms, our ego fears and defenses dissolve in the light of our love.
Journal Reflection Questions:
1. Think of someone you have a hard time genuinely connecting with, whether among family, friends, or co-workers. This can be a person you have mixed feelings about, whom you avoid, or who irritates you. Doing your best to be objective, write down one positive quality this person has, such as being a good parent to their child, or being a hard worker.
2. Now, keeping in mind the positive quality this person has, write down one small step you can take to start healing the discord and bring peace to the relationship. For example, you could compliment an irritating coworker’s photo of their child on their desk, or tell a family member with whom you don’t always get along with that you admire their work ethic. Take it slow as you approach creating a genuine connection.
3. To aid this process, close your eyes and visualize yourself and the person you are disconnected from. Imagine a bond of the pure light of peace drawing you together. Watch as you slowly approach each other. If there is a bump or a negative feeling, sit quietly and let it pass. Don’t force anything, just proceed comfortably for a couple minutes. Now, journal about how this exercise made you feel – less angry, unburdened? Consider repeating this visualization each day, watching the two of you come closer every time. Eventually, imagine facing this person with mutual smiles. Can you actually embrace? That is your goal.
4. Reflect further on your experience today.
“Everything exposed to the light becomes visible, and everything that is illuminated itself becomes light itself.” – St. Paul